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Jamie and Bob
'm a serial monogamist with a short attention span. I know this about myself and try to be as honest with my partners as possible, but some things are easier said than believed.
ReplyDeleteIn the end - and it always ends -- I'm the Satan, playing on the other person's affections.
i crush really hard on people i'll never have a real relationship with. they end up seeing my crazy way too early and i end up so much more hurt than the situation calls for.
ReplyDeletein relationships, i tend to be with someone who loves me desperately, and whom i have affection for and am physically attracted to enough for the sex to work. sometimes to be really good, even.
every time i've said "i love you" it hasn't meant what it was supposed to mean.
If a person touches another, physically, affectionately, is that an expression of love?
ReplyDeleteIs it intimacy?
Well it ain't chopped liver.
In this time of ours we're achingly desperate for contact.
Could it be because we've been hiding behind our screens, daring someone to reach us?
If so, this hunger is a good thing.
It means we've got a shot at preserving our humanity.
A slow build.
ReplyDeleteGradually but surely, we include each other in our lives a little bit more.
Sometimes that inclusion is face time, sometimes it's sharing an intimate detail.
Why? Because those kinds of relationships are built to last.
I've had tendency to pull the plug way early, without warning to avoid getting hurt in the long run. During my low points, I've taken to the "wounded bird", which naturally no good ever came from except to give me a temporary feeling of being needed.
ReplyDeleteSimilar to a previous post, I fall hard for those I know I'll never have a relationship with. Perhaps its the comfort level I feel since it stems usually from a solid friendship.
I always seem to get the big surprise only after unveiling a few layers of superficial personality. guess it has a lot to do with falling for what appears to be quiet sensitive almost sad types only to find out some horrible trauma that spreads like bubonic plague, later. you know, like pulling back foreskin and finding stanky dick-cheese on your adonis. yech, get away from me you are literally rotting and fermenting!
ReplyDeleteyou were young. i was young for believing you.
ReplyDeleteI don't like feeling beholden and I don't like sleeping alone. That is a tricky combination.
ReplyDeleteBefore the ONE BIG HEART-BREAKING THING OF WHICH I AM HARDLY OVER I only ever dated people for 3 months at a time. MAX. Then I dated a dude for nearly 5 years and lived with him for nearly 3 years. Now, I am back to ending things before they begin, so that I don't fuck anyone up and no one fucks me up. Plus, I am really busy.
Sometimes one experience can carry your happiness for days.
ReplyDeleteI grasp too hard. I break things.
ReplyDeleteI'm always bracing myself for the (so-far inevitable) moment when he gets bored of me.
ReplyDeleteMy very first relationship, in college-- I didn't know that it was possible for someone to just fall out of love. That's why, when he told me, it hit me like an anvil.
It's always best when you can talk about sex without feeling embarrassed.
my drug? emotionally disconnected sex with someone in whom i am psychologically interested.
ReplyDeletedoes that translate?
I fall in love like a chemical thing. It's fine for a while, and then when it hits there's no turning back. That would be fine if it always worked out, but I also fall in love with difficult people who have remarkable gifts and are often pretty damaged along the way.
ReplyDeleteWhen things turn out badly, I carry the pain for a long, long time.
The give-and-take in my relationships tends to be a 70-30 split. I'm not always the one giving the 70 percent, but it happens often enough that I get angry and quit. Maybe one day I'll find a partner who will work toward an even split.
ReplyDeleteThis hurts a little to admit, even though I'm working on improving this cycle. My relationships tend to alternate between the following:
ReplyDeleteI fall hard and quick; devote a great deal of energy, time and creativity to make sure the relationship works and my partner is happy. Then, when I inevitably burn out and need to recharge my batteries, I withdraw and get accused of neglect and/or being a different person. So I never get my needs nurtured as I was never forthcoming enough at the beginning. This hurt of expending energy followed by rejection lasts a long time.
Or, I maintain a more casual relationship that fulfills my physical needs without getting close enough to threaten my emotions. And I usually end that arrangement when the other person wants to move forward to an official relationship. Until I get lonely enough to try for an emotionally close relationship again.